West, Xan. Eight Kinky Nights. [Place of publication not identified]: Xan West, 2019.
ISBN-13: 978-1393329626 | $3.99 USD | 380 pages | Contemporary/Erotic Romance
Blurb
Sometimes the perfect Chanukah gift can change everything.
Newly divorced stone butch Jordan moves into her friend Leah’s spare room, ready, at 49, to take on a new job and finally explore kink and polyamory. But moving to NYC during the holidays sends grief crashing through her, and Jordan realizes that when she isn’t solely focused on caring for others, her own feelings are unavoidable. Including her feelings for Leah.
51 year old queer femme Leah, an experienced submissive kink educator who owns a sex shop, has recently come to terms with being gray ace and is trying to rework her life and relationships to honor that.
Leah has a brainstorm to help them both: she offers Jordan eight kink lessons, one for each night of Chanukah, to help Jordan find her feet as a novice dominant, and to create a structured space where Leah can work on more deeply honoring her own consent, now that she knows she’s gray ace.
She’d planned to keep it casual, but instead the experience opens cracks in the armor Leah’s been using to keep people at a distance and keep herself safe. Now she needs to grapple with the trauma that’s been impacting her life for years.
Can these two autistic queers find ways to cope with the changes they are making in their lives and support each other, as they build something new they hadn’t thought was possible?
This kinky polyamorous Chanukah f/f romance includes a friends to lovers, roommates to lovers, kink lessons, seasoned romance and getting your groove back tropes, and polyamorous, gray ace, pansexual, Jewish, fat, autistic, disabled, arthritis, PTSD and depression representation.
Review
5 stars
I’ve wanted to read Xan West’s Eight Kinky Nights for a long time, having taken the plunge to buy it and their other works not long after their passing in 2020. Unfortunately, while I read several of their shorter books, I could never get around to reading this one at what felt like the opportune time, although I had a feeling I’d love it. But this year, I resolved to make it happen in tandem with Chanukah. And as I suspected, it’s the best thing Xan West has ever written.
I love both leads and how real they are. Jordan and Leah are 49 and 51 respectively, and that in itself is not super common in romance, but I love how they’re also both Jewish, autistic, fat, and queer, with Leah having recently realized she’s also gray-ace. With the two of them being longtime friends, it was beautiful to see the two of them exploring sexuality and kink within the context of their identities and their established friendship, with Chanukah as the perfect backdrop for their lessons in kink. There’s a nice tenderness between the two, even if it’s tempered by their respective personal demons.
While I’ve read polyamorous romance before, I loved the way polyamory was included here, with the supporting cast feeling important to the journey that the protagonists were on as a couple, not to mention being varied and represented of various shades of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, including queerplatonic partnerships.
My one minor complaint is that the book had a somewhat slow build at first. However, it does pay off, as it helps to set up the dynamics between the leads and the terms of relationship. Once the story got into the titular “eight kinky nights,” I was hooked.
This is a wonderful book from an author gone too soon, combining some of my favorite tropes, like friends to lovers and sex (or in this case kink) lessons with compassionate portrayals of various marginalizations from an ownvoices perspective. If that sounds appealing to you, I’d recommend checking this out!
Author Bio
Xan West is the nom de plume of Corey Alexander, an autistic queer fat Jewish genderqueer writer and community activist with multiple disabilities who spends a lot of time on Twitter.
Xan’s erotica has been published widely, including in the Best S/M Erotica series, the Best Gay Erotica series, and the Best Lesbian Erotica series. Their work has been described by reviewers as “offering the erotica equivalent of happy ever after”, and “some of the best transgressive erotic fiction to come along in recent years”.
Xan’s story “First Time Since”, won honorable mention for the 2008 National Leather Association John Preston Short Fiction Award. Their recent collection of queer kink erotica, Show Yourself To Me, is out from Go Deeper Press, and has been described by M. Christian as “a book that changes what erotica can and should be.”
Xan blogs about trans representation in literature, kink, queerness, disability, and writing at https://xanwest.wordpress.com/.
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